Tuesday, January 28, 2014

No motivation...

How do you have a conversation with someone about something you find important when you know that no matter how you start it, no matter how you word it, how calm and kind you are, that the other person will immediately go on the defensive and be irritated and angry.

What do you do if you feel like the ONLY way to move forward is to have this conversation but you feel that having it might only make things worse because of the other persons inability to see alternate perspectives.  When the other person is one who believes they have no responsibility in the topic.

How does marriage work if only one person is willing to try, to compromise, to do what it takes.  If only one person puts the love into it that was there in the beginning.

Why do I want to be with the person that no longer wants to truly be with me?   Why do I love this person, the one who at one time, I loved because he believed in me, because he made me feel worthy and loved, he help me feel better about me.  He was fun, loving and funny.  I thought he accepted me for me, I thought he vowed to continue to be this person when we married each other.

Once again I feel like I've been shredded and torn.  I spent a life time being hurt over and over because I kept entrusting others with my heart.  I thought I finally found someone who was worthy of that trust, who would not drop it on the ground into the dirt and rocks to be left to dry and wither.

I have no drive or motivation or inspiration .... it hurts.